You’re Special, So Special

nerdAs a veteran high school English teacher, and particularly one who has taught predominantly gifted and college-bound students, I feel compelled to write about the increasing disparity between resources that are allocated for remediation and resources that are available for students who work hard enough to earn excellent grades. I say “work hard” because it is apparent that top students’ grades come not from magic dust, their mother seeing a white buffalo, or even stellar-IQ genes. In fact, if students who earn poor grades were compared using IQ only, “A” students and “F” students would correlate much more closely than expected. The work ethic of those at the top is the main source of differentiation. It is heartbreaking that work ethic is never rewarded in the public school system, and is actually punished more often than not.
First, most government programs with serious money behind them reward students to the point of windfall who are developmentally or physically disabled. Acquiring a label of disability is tantamount to a free pass from work, responsibilities, or pressure of any kind. These students stricken through no fault of their own by disabling depression or anxiety will have nothing to worry about, ever. Of course, disabled students require extra supervision and support ranging in scope from unlimited time on assessments to diapering and it isn’t fair to lump them all together as one, but since the government does not distinguish between depression and cerebral palsy, for the purposes of this blog I won’t either.
Almost invariably, students at the top of the heap possess a myriad of uniform characteristics marking them as exceptional, which should guarantee them access to some resources to serve their special needs. Having worked with both ends of the spectrum, this is what I can say for sure. Top students are clean, respectful, thorough, detail-oriented, inquisitive, and kind. A teacher’s classroom at the end of the day is a prime indicator of his/her students’ grades. Top students are respectful of their environment. They never leave trash, produce graffiti, or deface/destroy books, desks, and other school property. In fact, they volunteer their time to ensure a clean, safe environment for all. They treat teachers and other adults with respect, acknowledge the contributions of others and reach out to those in need. Conversely, students with poor grades are often disrespectful, bullying others at every opportunity and pandering for undeserved rewards. The system is designed to support and reward those who perpetrate such behavior, and punishes those who excel behaviorally and academically.
The big money is reserved for often-unnecessary accommodations and ineffective interventions at the bottom of the heap. Schools are increasingly overreaching to usurp the rights and responsibilities of the American family and eroding away both in the process. Dangerous ground is broken when the State presumes to dictate morals, values, behavior and cultural norms. Teachers are not psychologists, medical professionals, behaviorists, or employers. The bottom-of-the-heap students quickly learn that the louder their proclamations of victimhood, the more rewards will be offered. These students come out of their 21-year stint in the state institution not assuming their portion of burden as productive members of society, but ready to accept government largesse in cradle-to-grave benefits including disability, food stamps, section 8 housing, etc. The cycle of poverty is reinforced in public school, not broken.
My students are the high achievers. They passed an entrance exam in order to attend the school where I teach. This sort of tracking is unfortunately unique and rare in the United States, although it is used in most countries we consider models for achievement in education such as Germany and Norway. Situations where students are tracked by ability in the public sector are so unusual here because outraged and misguided advocacy groups protest that majority groups are overrepresented and minorities overshadowed in programs for the gifted. This outrage ignores that fact that the same test is given to everyone and the test itself is color blind. We do not have our own campus, of course, but students take all AP classes and share a campus with another school. The “normal kids” at our sister school often bully my students, teasing them for their rolling backpacks and dedication to their classes. Our books are falling apart, although no students ever complain. They will buy another or carefully tape their books together. The campus is crumbling around them, and they must leave the building to use the restroom, although I have never heard them protest about this. They put enormous pressure on themselves to do well and do not file lawsuits against teachers and administrators who fail to recognize their special needs. They are too special to make a big deal out of it.

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Vapor Girl

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This weekend was Tucson’s first official vaping expo. Even if you don’t vape, the phenomenon itself is a fascinating cultural shift that is fundamentally changing public vice.  When I quit smoking six months ago, my e-cig became a transitional crutch, a pretty metal tube that satisfied the oral fixation, the nicotine withdrawals, and a certain postmodern  need for some sort of public vice. I don’t need a hand-slapping government entity to inform me after years of taxpayer-funded social research that I suffer no ill effects from inhaling nicotine vapor. I run faster, breathe more deeply, and speak more resonantly than I did while smoking the death sticks.

The expo was a Disney-esque circus of brightly colored NiQuids, portable hookahs, bong-like tanks and enthusiastic young “mixologists” who blend every flavor imaginable into the nicotine fluid that produces happy clouds of harmless vapor which quickly disappear into the atmosphere. Some tanks possess so much ampage that the vaper’s entire upper body is engulfed in vapor like Beyonce emerging from a Super Bowl halftime show stage elevator. I was wide-eyed as an exposed deer in November. Bouncy young salespeople from White Rhino, Vice, Kanger, NiQuid, SpaceJam, Tenacious V, and other aggressively-branded juice producers urged me to try flavors ranging from butterscotch coffee to pomegranate bubble gum.  Vaping, hip and stylish, is a nascent industry, a far cry from the social, professional, and physical suicide that is smoking. Vapers exhale proudly in mixed company. Our breath smells like wild cherries.

Like any late first-gen industry, the feds are sniffing around the edges of the pie, feeling out how large of a piece they can purloin. I imagine that the heavier mixes (24 mg) which are apparently being fatally consumed en masse by children of double-digit IQ-cursed parents, will soon be banned. The companies which are obviously targeting juveniles risk the developing integrity of the entire industry. No one wants the Camel penis billboard stigma, or any sort of backlash against questionable marketing practices. The predominantly Indian tank manufacturers are quick to place hilariously-worded cards inside their packaging, vaguely indicating that some sort of inspection has taken place.

Weighed down with slick marketing bags heavy with colorful liquids and shiny, Versace-designed vape tanks, we left the expo like magic angels, disappearing into happy clouds, confidently blowing nicotine into the stratosphere and praying for the health of the ozone hole.

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R.I.P. Public Education

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It is heart-wrenching to watch the noble citadel which used to protect public education crumble beneath the weight of inept government intervention. As a 15-year high school English teacher, I watch helplessly as my once-proud profession is slowly, painfully degrading. During my first decade as an educator, teaching was a respectable, solidly-middle class career, the poster job for fulfilling an admittedly humble American dream. These days, teaching is a second-rate starter job guaranteeing poverty for those foolish enough to seek a “career” in education. Governments at all levels, allocating more tax dollars to private prisons than public schools, have focused intensifying vitriol against both teachers and public schools in every way imaginable, from deep and dangerous pay cuts that actually put our nation’s youth at risk not only for failure, but for physical harm, to the eradication of collective bargaining rights so that teaching pays little more than a “career” in fast food prep. When the blame for pervasive student failure in penury-ridden cities shifted from the home to the school, as the political climate devalued the individual in favor of the collective, teachers bore the brunt of the backlash. While a direct and solid correlation shows that single parenthood, age and education of parents, and substance abuse in families are unfortunate but accurate predictors of students success, somehow those stunting factors take a back seat to the failure of a well-educated, talented teacher to instantly propel each of 150 students to college readiness with no supplies or support in 50 minutes per school day.

 Thank  Arizona Superintendent John Huppenthal when your voucher-wielding private school student professes that earth is 4,000 years old, that dinosaurs were an elaborate hoax, and that the sun revolves around the earth. After all, isn’t private education simply better? Freed from constitutional constraints separating church and state, private and charter schools excel in paddling unruly miscreants, applauding conformity, engaging in sweetheart deals with contractors with no taxpayer accountability, and denying services to exceptional education students. Freed from the yoke of intelligent restraint, private and charter schools do not require teachers to have advanced degrees or experience. They are free to pay teachers at day care scales, and it shouldn’t be surprising to see charter schools pop up in abandoned buildings and taxpayer dollars disappear into black holes.

Also thank Barack Obama and his misguided cronie, Education Secretary Arne Duncan, who tapped East Coast businessmen to create the new, universal “common” standards for all American students and tied state-needed federal dollars to their implementation. No educators were consulted as, obviously, McDonald’s doesn’t ask its line cooks for input on the Big Mac. American students are now officially products to be exploited like any other. These core “standards” are designed to produce Brave New World-style clones who do not possess the skills to form original opinions or the tools to question authority.

Kudos, too, to Bill Gates and his cronies for ensuring that fewer and fewer bright young college grads will choose teaching as a career because they will be unable to pay back student loans or afford to survive above poverty level. Not to worry, as the bright-eyed Teach For America (TFA) crew will pick up the slack. Touted as the new Peace Corps, TFA is a one-percenter endorsed program that transplants East Coast Ivy Leaguers on a journey of cultural tourism into some of the most “challenging” (i.e., low-income zip codes) teaching environments in America to “save” the darker races from themselves by providing the only quality education these poor, unfortunate wretches will ever know. Such noblesse oblige is truly admirable, given that few TFA “teachers,” with their two-week boot camp on excellent teaching methods will succeed in anything other than fostering resentment and alienating the veteran staff at those schools, most of whom have sacrificed down to the bone to actually make a difference in their home towns while the Teach For America martyrs will return debt-free to their far away trust fund palaces where their appalling experiences bumping elbows with the downtrodden will fuel dinner party conversation for decades.

It’s time to stop divesting in education simply because kids can’t vote. Defunding public education does not have the same effect as pulling one’s investment dollars from a struggling market. Americans will continue to produce progeny in need of increasingly scarce quality public education. Families committed to their children will migrate to states which have fought against teachers-union-busting – coincidentally, the same states with highest student achievement levels – and desert the states which strangle our youth at all of our expense.

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Cancellers, Chubbies, and Pretenders: Trainers’ Nightmares

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From time to time, I train other females in fitness workout routines geared to meet their specific goals. I don’t take many clients simply because my day job meets most of my financial needs, and no matter what I charge, training is seldom worth the headaches it causes. Three client types are the root cause of these headaches, and I doubt my experiences are unique.

Recently, a friend whose weight has skyrocketed asked me to help her get fit. She asked me for help as we pulled into the drive-thru at a fast food restaurant where she ordered two cheeseburgers, fries, and a similar meal for her small child riding in a car seat in the back. “Get out of the drive-thru, then,” I said. She simply laughed, and continued to plow into the meal which reeked of grease so thoroughly that I had to roll down my window. This meal would make me sick, because I haven’t eaten fast food in many years and my body now rejects trans-fats as it would poison, which trans-fat most closely resembles. I described what this stuff can do to the body, and how much work it will take simply to defeat its negative effects. Earlier, I had listened to her complain of her husband’s loss of sexual interest, and how she hoped to “keep the fire alive” somehow. She did not, however, see the correlation between her drastic weight gain and her husband’s lack of desire. We made a plan to meet at my gym later in the week.

When gym day arrived, my friend, as usual, was nowhere to be found. She called with a flimsy excuse, as so many had before. “Cancellers” are a group of fatties (yes, fatties) who complain incessantly about their weight yet never lift a finger to get fit. Lifting a French fry doesn’t count. They will use any excuse, including weight-induced pain, to avoid cardio or resistance activity that might improve their fitness. In fact, during the call, this Canceller had to clean up a mess she and her child had made from eating ice cream in the car. Apparently, the call of the drive-thru trumped the call of the gym. Cancellers rarely transition from fat to fit, even though many end up going through brutal divorces, job loss, and health problems as a result of their weight gain. Perhaps most disturbing is that she is training her little girl to adopt harmful eating habits and a sedentary lifestyle.

“Chubbies” are another group of trainees who cause headaches of a different sort. While they do show up for sessions, they rarely work hard enough to make a dent in their physique. I call them Chubbies because while they are packing around far too much fat, their youth tempts them to call it “baby fat.” In fact, Ivory commercials have led them to believe that “normal” means overweight, and the boomerang effect of media campaigns to boost teen girls’ self-esteem has led to increasing acceptance of unhealthy body weight. As long as their curviness is popping buttons in a twenty-something body, they reason, there is no sense of urgency about fitness. The Chubbies are easily distracted by texts, and as long as any member of the opposite sex, regardless of status or attractiveness, is interested, they use this as an excuse to forego fitness. They don’t want to look like a man, they claim, as if lifting a ten-pound weight over their heads to strengthen their back muscles will make them secrete testosterone.

The “Pretenders” as I call them are a group of trainees who believe that their mere presence in the gym should be enough to reduce their girth and shrink their gut. They neglect to follow through with an appropriate eating plan, and are dead weight at the gym. As soon as I turn my back, they stop to rest. External stimuli will not lead to permanent fitness, and while I try to inspire instead of adopting a drill sergeant approach, Pretenders seem to believe that osmosis and proximity to fitness junkies will somehow pay off. They arrive to the session with the attitude that it is my job, not theirs, to do all of the work required for them to fit into skinny jeans. Pretenders toy with weights, but have long ago told themselves that they are not strong enough or coordinated enough to actually pump iron.

So many clients are positive and have enjoyed amazing results that it seems petty to devote blog space to Cancellers, Chubbies, and Pretenders, but I hope that it might open a few eyes and save clients a little money until they are ready to go in with a positive, serious, confident mindset to actually get fit.

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I Click; Therefore, I am

I’ve written about selfies before, but having returned recently from a trip to the Yucatan where photo ops were more prevalent than breakfast-nabbing coatimundis, I felt the need to lament the unfortunate trend of living one’s vacations through the graphic screen of one’s camera.

After a particularly enjoyable Japanese dinner in the middle of the rain forest, I stepped outside the gilded doors of the resort restaurant onto the inlaid marble walkway bounded on either side by a lovely reflection pool graced by gleaming koi to enjoy the gracefully humid jungle air and a moment without the clanging of knives. Cloaked in darkness, I looked through the plate glass floor-to-ceiling windows at a large teppan yaki community table behind which a stately ginzu chef adeptly chopped and tossed his knives skyward. To a man, those seated around the large table were viewing the scene exclusively through their phones. In unison, ten flashes illuminated the shrimp flame. Not one of the ginzu guests spoke or interacted with the others.

The distraction of the ubiquitous camera phone, or, worse, the large camera tablets that are rapidly replacing them, is an affront to the immediacy of any moment. Does the world really want to see your awful, shaky videos? Addiction to technology is, may I venture, more annoying than smoking. We have a seemingly insatiable appetite to capture all moments on our cameras, displaying a wonky courage in the face of, say, a charging buffalo at Yellowstone (yes, I’ve seen a lingering mob of camera-wielders refusing to budge in order to preserve the charge for eternity on youtube).  Are we generously turning into an intrepid horde of citizen journalists, or indulging a narcissistic impulse to earn bragging rights as the first to post? Viewing a concert through the camera scene of such a dolt seated in front of you diminishes the concert experience considerably.

“I Forgot My Phone” is a wonderful short film by Charlene DeGuzman emphasizing the loss of the world around the glowing glass. Smartphone addictions cripple relationships, vacations, and can even get you fired. Nomophobia, the fear of losing one’s phone, has settled into our lexicon, and California leads the way in retreats for cell phone addiction. Validating our existence through one’s camera phone has become more important than cultivating scintillating conversation skills, nurturing personal relationships, and letting one’s actions speak for themselves.

In all fairness, camera phones link us during times of disaster and war like no other media. I would simply like to humbly recommend that we use sober restraint, endeavor to live the moment with immediacy, and click only when our purposes are loftier than shameless self-promotion. If we can click politely and discreetly without revealing the baser side of human nature, we might become auteurs instead of voyeurs.

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People of Walmart: A Galvanizing Force of Nature

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http://www.peopleofwalmart.com/61162/wisecracks/

 

Since a Walmart recently moved into my central Tucson neighborhood after handily defeating the neighborhood association and its weak little legal team, I recently became aware of Walmart as a driving social force. Approaching the gargantuan, intimidating building late at night, one can see why. Police cars, formerly rare in this area, patrolled the perimeter. In the parking lot, a new and unfamiliar population rolled out of their cars. They weren’t from these parts.

 The sociological trend that is known as “People of Walmart” has become a galvanizing political litmus test. The website, a compilation of pictures and videos taken at Walmart stores across the nation, reveals a hodge-podge of obesity, too much flesh, horrible ink, frightening hair, bizarre fashion choices, and truly creepy public behavior. It is also raw, uncensored, and voyeuristic.  I have to admit that on bad days, I sometimes look at the site and somehow feel better. I am ashamed to admit that the people of Walmart make me feel grateful, healthy, and well-adjusted. The images become emblazoned into one’s consciousness like the aftermath of a bad auto accident, though, and it can’t be positive to put that stuff into one’s head.  The photos are grouped into categories such as the self-explanatory “wisecracks,” “Bad Grandpas,” and “Is it a Costume?” Sometimes I laugh so hard I nearly choke, and others I feel awful for even looking.

Back to the Walmart People political litmus test.  Most who hate the website seem to be liberal democrats who believe that the People of Walmart are victims of exploitation to some extent. After all, the shoppers appear to be largely unaware of their online infamy, although part of the site’s allure is the visitor’s incredulity that Walmartians actually venture out in public like that. The WMP liberals are disgusted with the snarky comments, which they view as cruel bullying. Those who are put off by the site believe that given enough education, health care, and access to Section 8 and EBT cards, those leopard thong wearing grandmas would turn their lives around and start shopping at Trader Joe’s. Political correctness dictates that we smile and nod at the 6-foot “woman” in the taffeta prom dress and combat boots who needs a stomach bra instead of quietly whipping out our camera phones. 

Conversely, those who enjoy the site effusively are often right wing republicans. Their sympathy doesn’t extend far beyond their front doors, and pointing out the flaws of others is a valid self esteem builder.  WMP proponents believe that Walmartians, seeing the disgusted reaction to their blatant cellulite exposure, might actually get a wakeup call and cover it up, reel it in, or tone it down. Those who celebrate Walmart as a driving cultural force believe that art reflects life, not vice versa.

Of course, “normal” peeps shop at Walmart, but we can all identify the real “Walmart people” when we see them. I felt compelled to examine just what it is that makes WMP so compelling, and I’ve come up with the Creed of Walmartians.

  1. Be proud. True Walmart People sport comb-over dreadlocks with panache, parade hot air balloon-sized stomachs, and free-ball  and free-boob with the deepest “IDGAF” swagger.
  2. Be uneducated. Walmart People by and large aren’t college grads, which should be obvious in the first place because simply shopping at Walmart implies a certain gritty desperation most high earners simply don’t possess.
  3.  Be trashy. Walmartians are not afraid to flaunt their fetishes, advertise their availability, and send out overt messages celebrating their choice of proclivities and positions.
  4. Be uncivilized. Walmart People don’t let a prudish sense of privacy, respect, or decency keep them down. They sock it to the Man who would have them cover their paunches, comb their hair, and require them to cover those lumpy biscuits.
  5. Perform Bodily Functions in Public. Walmartians fart, burp, defecate, urinate, catheterize, masturbate and regurgitate in full public view. They do, in fact, celebrate these functions and ridicule those who would step on their freedoms by urging them to make their business private.

 

The abovementioned Creed, also a personal reality check for those suspecting genetic links to Duck Dynasty, is my own creation and does not reflect the values, beliefs, or ethics of the contributors to Walmart People.com.

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Trick or Treat: A Paradox

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Sometimes an issue jumps out at me like a teenager in a Miley Cyrus twerking costume. The letter above was written by a fed-up “villager” from Fargo who is so concerned about the childhood obesity epidemic that she claims she will be handing this letter to obese trick-or-treaters instead of candy. The letter went viral, and the writer has apparently become a target. Her goal in releasing the letter several days before Halloween was obviously to shock the community into reacting, and she picked an excellent holiday for the occasion. While Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter are also paeans to gluttony, Halloween is the only holiday during which children can be legally sent from door to door to beg for food ala Oliver Twist.

While poorly written and in questionable taste, the letter underscores a growing frustration with parents who refuse to provide a healthy diet and opportunities for exercise for their children. I reluctantly drop mini chocolate bars into the outstretched pillow sheets of ever-larger children whose increasing girth is far more frightening than their Walking Dead costumes. A smiling princess with a triple chin proudly sporting wobbling belly rolls under tight taffeta does not make me warm and fuzzy about upholding what has become a  another sordid American holiday tradition of overconsumption. Instead, I silently pity the poor kids who, excluding medical conditions which cause weight gain, have become the unwitting victims of their parents’ largesse. Ahem.

 It’s high time that the parents of obese children assume some of the blame. They far too often abdicate responsibility for their unhealthy progeny by relying on school lunch programs, allowing kids to spend far too much time watching TV and playing video games, and not providing opportunities for exercise. Parents of obese children would rather not argue with pleading children threatening temper tantrums at Walmart. Personal responsibility is a daunting task. It is much easier to hand off the burden to the government, schools, electronic babysitters, and eventually to the medical community.  Giving in and creating unhealthy eating habits that will take a lifetime to undo is not only irresponsible,  but often deadly. Stopping at a drive-thru is far easier than firing up the stove at home, and will meet with a more enthusiastic response from fat and sugar-addicted children. After all, working out is so hard. If all of my students and clients blogged their daily excuses simultaneously on WordPress, it would crash and burn in an Obamacare-style conflagration. The vast majority prefer to make excuses rather than put in some sweat.

As a side note and to strengthen my argument supporting the well-intentioned letter writer, I am extremely fit, work out six days a week, and work as a personal trainer as a side job.  It pains me to give out candy and chocolate for Halloween, since I do not consume either food product. I would rather give out treats, though, than suffer the tricky consequences to my home and property.  I will smile at the jiggling princess and her young Minion sidekick looking all the world like Jonah Hill in drag and fill up those yawning pillowcases. At least I know that Obamacare will collapse under its own weight as Generation XXXL comes of age.

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Obamacare Slouches Toward Bethlehem

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I have been solidly-insured for most of my adult life, except during those fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants college years when we are all truly invincible. As I grew into adulthood and assumed responsibility for my life, health insurance was one of the perks that came with my college degree and career. I never viewed regular check-ups, medications, and specialty medicine as my right simply for existing in America. If I were uninsured, I could of course go to a doctor for a sore knee, but would pay said doctor using my own funds. After all, it was my showboating that resulted in the moped wreck in the first place, and I wouldn’t expect the onlookers to pay my medical bills. I certainly knew that a visit to the ER would result in an exorbitant bill which I must pay if I were uninsured, just as an auto accident without insurance will cost an arm and a leg if not both. I thus avoided activities like drunk parasailing, inhalant usage, recreational eating, junkie orgies, etc. These days, maybe obamacare will free Americans from the restrictive, cruel shackles of preventative care such as working out regularly, eating sensibly, and paying heed to the skull and cross-crutches in the jackass disclaimer.

  Regarding the computer debacle that has plagued the Obamacare rollout, it should come as no surprise that the Canadian company (ahem) awarded the multi-million dollar tech contract came complete with sloppy glitches that have prevented users from obtaining health insurance. The first “glitch” becomes apparent when the user receives an erroneous quote for insurance. This is the type of “glitch” that corporations use to lure in and trap gullible consumer slaves. It is called the “bait and switch” fallacy wherein a company uses the “carrot” of the lowest-priced product to seduce the buyer into spending more money.

“Upselling” is so common that it is deeply embedded in most software programs for online purchases, and the obamacare site is no different, although the new online sucker is the U.S. taxpayer. One of its many problems is that those shopping for health insurance plans are not asked their exact age until the end of the process. The two age categories from which they may “select” are 18-49 and over 50. Obviously, the cheaper policies for the 18-49 age group become more expensive when the consumer announces that she is a 49-year-old obese chainsmoker in her big “reveal,” thus jacking up the $274 monthly insurance fee to $590. The consumer, coughing and inhaling powdered doughnuts, soon realizes she has now wasted hours of her time as surely as she has wasted a quarter of her paycheck on Powerball tickets. She cannot afford any of the plans, and will now be eligible for a subsidy.

Obamacare will turn out to be just another medicare plan wherein if one proves that one is indigent, one can receive subsidized health care. As always, those of us who actually pay for our plans will cover the growing hordes who do not. As usual, those who work hard to stay fit and eat properly incur the costs associated with the generally deleterious lifestyles pursued by the chronically unemployable. Oh well, maybe the gym will become less crowded.

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I Click; Therefore, I am

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I’ve written about selfies before, but having returned recently from a trip to the Yucatan where photo ops were more prevalent than breakfast-nabbing coatimundis, I felt the need to lament the unfortunate trend of living one’s vacations through the graphic screen of one’s camera.

After a particularly enjoyable Japanese dinner in the middle of the rain forest, I stepped outside the gilded doors of the resort restaurant onto the inlaid marble walkway bounded on either side by a lovely reflection pool graced by gleaming koi to enjoy the deliciously humid jungle air and a cigarette, a walking dichotomy of opposing health beliefs. Cloaked in darkness, I looked through the plate glass floor-to-ceiling windows at a large teppan yaki community table behind which a stately ginzu chef adeptly chopped and tossed his knives skyward. To a man, those seated around the large table were viewing the scene exclusively through their phones. In unison, ten flashes illuminated the shrimp flame. Not one of the ginzu guests spoke or interacted with the others.

The distraction of the ubiquitous camera phone, or, worse, the large camera tablets that are rapidly replacing them, is an affront to the immediacy of any moment. Does the world really want to see your awful, shaky videos? Addiction to technology is, may I venture, more annoying than smoking. We have a seemingly insatiable appetite to capture all moments on our cameras, displaying a wonky courage in the face of, say, a charging buffalo at Yellowstone (yes, I’ve seen a lingering mob of camera-wielders refusing to budge in order to preserve the charge for eternity on youtube).  Are we generously turning into an intrepid horde of citizen journalists, or indulging a narcissistic impulse to earn bragging rights as the first to post? Viewing a concert through the camera scene of such a dolt seated in front of you diminishes the music experience considerably.

“I Forgot My Phone” is a wonderful short film by Charlene DeGuzman emphasizing the loss of the world around the glowing glass. Smartphone addictions cripple relationships, diminish vacations, and jeopardize jobs. Nomophobia, the fear of losing one’s phone, has settled into our lexicon, and California leads the way in retreats for cell phone addiction. Validating our existence through one’s camera phone has become more important than cultivating scintillating conversation skills, nurturing personal relationships, and letting one’s actions speak for themselves.

In all fairness, camera phones link us during times of disaster and war like no other media. I would simply like to humbly recommend that we use sober restraint, endeavor to live the moment with immediacy, and click only when our purposes are loftier than shameless self-promotion. If we can click politely and discreetly without revealing the baser side of human nature, we might become auteurs instead of voyeurs.

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As my students gear up to read The Great Gatsby, I was looking for a hook this morning to help them understand the sociocultural norms of the 20s, and particularly the distinguishing characteristics of class and upbringing. Nick, the narrator, is, to me, a typical Midwesterner like most folks I grew up with in Illinois. That makes him more alien than a Pashwari Sikh to young Arizonans. “Midwestern values” encompasses an entire spectrum of social mores that are shocking and strange to my kids. When I told them that PDAs are generally frowned upon even among family members, a hush fell over the room. Today’s high schoolers suck face with great abandon, noisily, and in public. The very idea that a hickie is something to be ashamed of instead of a trophy is far beyond their Western sensibilities.

“Bling,” or the ostentatious show of material wealth on or about one’s body, is the accepted norm among my students. In fact, they often put a $1,000 stereo in a $500 hoopdie with no ironic intent. I like to share stories about the wealthiest landowners (i.e., farmers) in my hometown. These were stoic-faced Germans, by and large, with sunburnt necks and calloused hands. These stingy-tipping, hard-bargaining Depression survivors had accumulated more money in their bank accounts than an average Gulfstream-jet-setting CEO today. Their timeless uniform was overalls with a jaunty dash of Carhartt in the winter. Even a red tie worn for a church social (under overalls) might draw a raised eyebrow or two. Showiness of any sort was considered to be a glaring indicator not only of awful taste, but poor upbringing. We were taught never to ridicule or judge anyone else, as we were constantly reminded that not everyone had been brought up with the advantages we’d enjoyed, which meant married parents, reliable meals, and full grain silos. The idea of bullying a kid who has poor clothes is just anathema to a Midwesterner’s mindset. Poor character, now that was another story.

Maybe the most striking difference between Nick the Midwesterner and my students is Nick’s attitude about “drama.” The spontaneous overflow of feeling, as Wordsworth called romanticism, is particularly disdained by Midwesterners. Carl Sandburg’s characterization of Chicago as “wicked, crooked, fierce, proud, and brutal” (not in the same line, of course) hit home for me. Few adjectives evoke a more un-romantic tone. Sandburg’s hog-butchering, brawling Chicagoan reflects Midwestern values in all their rugged splendor.

Western Romanticism is gentle, coddling, and indulgent in comparison. For example, many of my students come from homes in which parents will take out a second mortgage to throw a quinceanara, marking baby’s birthdays with Hollywood-style bashes lasting several days, breaking the bank to throw a Vegas-style wedding,  but certainly boosting the ego of the recipients of such largesse.

While it seems like a happy medium must exist between tight-fisted Midwestern Puritanism and reckless Wild West Romanticism, it speaks to a larger issue than Nick’s disillusionment with the excesses of wealthy Eggers. In fact, tearing apart a few of those Midwestern farmhouse mattresses might eliminate the federal deficit, old sport.

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